5. Law of Expectation
Please read the universal laws overview page first to have an overall perspective before embarking on each law separately, it will just make more sense.
Simply stated, the Law of Expectation tells us that whatever one expects, with confidence, becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. When one expects with confidence that good things will happen, they usually will. If, on the other hand, one expects a negative outcome to a situation, then the outcome will usually be negative.
Our expectations play a key role in our own outcome and they also have a remarkable effect on the people around us. What we expect from those around us determines our attitude toward them more than any other factor. In turn, the people around us tend to reflect our attitudes right back at us, whether the expectations and attitudes are positive or negative, good or bad.
Dr. Robert Rosenthal of the University of California, Riverside, has spent more than 40 years studying the idea that one’s expectations for the behaviour of another can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. His years of experimentation show this to be true. In his landmark book, “Pygmalion in the Classroom”, Rosenthal tells of case after case where teachers were told that a student or sometimes a whole class, was extremely bright and was predicted to make a quantum leap in academic performance in the coming year. Even though the students were randomly chosen from the school population at large, and provided the teacher believed, that the student/s were exceptional and expected them to excel, the students performed at much higher levels than other students in the same or similar classes and vastly better than could have been predicted by previous grades or behaviour. In other words, If i say to you, "I believe in you and that you can do it" you will naturally respond and do it. Or conversely, if you say to yourself that you can accomplish this or that with positive feeling and conviction, then you will do it! YOu may have noticed that every universal law discussed involves feelings some where in the process. Feelings are fundamental to the whole process of life.
The Arbinger Institute (http://www.arbinger.com) has published a terrific book called “Leadership and Self Deception – Getting out of the Box”. While the book focuses on developing superior leadership skills through being true to oneself, they talk a lot about the way we view others and the way we expect others to act, based on our own internal prejudices. They refer to this as “being inside the box”. It is not until we choose to view others as they really are i.e. human beings, with valuable experiences, viewpoints and inputs, that we will be able to connect at a deeper level and achieve higher degrees of understanding and communication. In other words, it is not until our expectations of others change that we can change our own experiences with them. Let me give you an example, in societies where racism is present, there is a belief that one race is superior to others and that this or that cannot be achieved by that race. Change that to seeing them as they really are as human beings, with valuable experiences, viewpoints and inputs, then and only then will we be able to work with them in a constructive way to achieve a mutual benefit to the benefit of all.
In other words - people will respond to you in the way that you respond or expect them to! Or you can say in the way that you train them too!! the law of expectation in full flight. Think about that for a moment!
The obvious stands here before us – judgment! This is the downfall of many of us. When we stand in judgment of another we must be very sure that we ourselves are absolutely clean and that we are not projecting something onto the other. We need to be absolutely and brutally honest with ourselves here. A wonderful clue is to monitor what is going on in the inside. If there is even the slightest hint of a reaction to a person, then there is something that you are projecting onto that person. Know then that you are placing an expectation on that person and it will be reflected back to you. That is the law of expectation!
Take a moment to think about your own expectations – those of yourself and of others around you. Your expectations exert a powerful influence on people and events, for good or for bad, so be extremely careful what you place there!
What You Can Do
There are a few things that you can start doing immediately that will help you to harness the awesome power of the Law of Expectation:
Simply stated, the Law of Expectation tells us that whatever one expects, with confidence, becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. When one expects with confidence that good things will happen, they usually will. If, on the other hand, one expects a negative outcome to a situation, then the outcome will usually be negative.
Our expectations play a key role in our own outcome and they also have a remarkable effect on the people around us. What we expect from those around us determines our attitude toward them more than any other factor. In turn, the people around us tend to reflect our attitudes right back at us, whether the expectations and attitudes are positive or negative, good or bad.
Dr. Robert Rosenthal of the University of California, Riverside, has spent more than 40 years studying the idea that one’s expectations for the behaviour of another can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. His years of experimentation show this to be true. In his landmark book, “Pygmalion in the Classroom”, Rosenthal tells of case after case where teachers were told that a student or sometimes a whole class, was extremely bright and was predicted to make a quantum leap in academic performance in the coming year. Even though the students were randomly chosen from the school population at large, and provided the teacher believed, that the student/s were exceptional and expected them to excel, the students performed at much higher levels than other students in the same or similar classes and vastly better than could have been predicted by previous grades or behaviour. In other words, If i say to you, "I believe in you and that you can do it" you will naturally respond and do it. Or conversely, if you say to yourself that you can accomplish this or that with positive feeling and conviction, then you will do it! YOu may have noticed that every universal law discussed involves feelings some where in the process. Feelings are fundamental to the whole process of life.
The Arbinger Institute (http://www.arbinger.com) has published a terrific book called “Leadership and Self Deception – Getting out of the Box”. While the book focuses on developing superior leadership skills through being true to oneself, they talk a lot about the way we view others and the way we expect others to act, based on our own internal prejudices. They refer to this as “being inside the box”. It is not until we choose to view others as they really are i.e. human beings, with valuable experiences, viewpoints and inputs, that we will be able to connect at a deeper level and achieve higher degrees of understanding and communication. In other words, it is not until our expectations of others change that we can change our own experiences with them. Let me give you an example, in societies where racism is present, there is a belief that one race is superior to others and that this or that cannot be achieved by that race. Change that to seeing them as they really are as human beings, with valuable experiences, viewpoints and inputs, then and only then will we be able to work with them in a constructive way to achieve a mutual benefit to the benefit of all.
In other words - people will respond to you in the way that you respond or expect them to! Or you can say in the way that you train them too!! the law of expectation in full flight. Think about that for a moment!
The obvious stands here before us – judgment! This is the downfall of many of us. When we stand in judgment of another we must be very sure that we ourselves are absolutely clean and that we are not projecting something onto the other. We need to be absolutely and brutally honest with ourselves here. A wonderful clue is to monitor what is going on in the inside. If there is even the slightest hint of a reaction to a person, then there is something that you are projecting onto that person. Know then that you are placing an expectation on that person and it will be reflected back to you. That is the law of expectation!
Take a moment to think about your own expectations – those of yourself and of others around you. Your expectations exert a powerful influence on people and events, for good or for bad, so be extremely careful what you place there!
What You Can Do
There are a few things that you can start doing immediately that will help you to harness the awesome power of the Law of Expectation:
- Always expect the best! Assume the very best of intentions on the part of those around you. There is no better place to start than home. Tell your spouse and children on a regular basis that you believe in them, that you think they are wonderful, that you love them and that you are proud of them. Expecting food for them!
- Practice these same behaviors with your staff and co-workers. The very best managers, entrepreneurs and salespeople are "high expectations" people. This tells it’s own story does it not!!
- Expect the best of yourself. Focus on your unlimited potential and imagine that you can accomplish anything that you put your mind to. Imagine that your greatest moments lie ahead and that everything that has happened to you until now, has merely been a preparation for the greater things that are yet to come.
