Relationships
RELATIONSHIPS - One of the hardest skills to master. The right skills makes it possible and easy!
The four pillars that make all of us up are: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. We are all meant to grow these pillars and apply them fully expressed. This makes for successful relationships. This is what we teach! See here for testimonials from clients.
Most of us don’t really know what they are, primarily because we were never taught about them. So, we try to learn from relationships, and need relationships to facilitate us individually and collectively to learn what they are about and apply them. The feedback, through the relationship experience, teaches each of us, and that is how we generally learned up to this point. Many good articles and books have been written, and workshops have been offered covering the four pillars. The problem is that we see each one of them as singular aspects, and not in a holistic and balanced way. We collectively need to learn and grow these four pillars into a single functioning holistic unit that will result in functional relationships everywhere.
Not having any partners fosters very little growth, and moving from one to another at every bump does not foster growth either. Working with your partner, using these pillars, resolves things. Some people grow faster than others and some simply choose not to grow at all. Each at their own pace! The bottom line is that we all need relationships to grow and learn from! Sometimes partners can stay for one lifespan, and that’s great, but at other times one partner outgrows the other and both parties can feel this. It does not mean that either party is bad, it just means that the relationship has reached its sell by date. Each party has learned what they can from it. Thank the other partner for the growth and move on without animosity.
Below we give an outline of what is relevant to grow with, so as to create the best potential for a deep satisfying, supportive, and lasting relationship.
EMOTIONAL BASIS
Understanding emotional needs in relationships: Recognizing individual emotional needs, such as feeling heard, validated, respected, and supported, is crucial. Unmet emotional needs can lead to feelings of resentment and disconnection. Effective communication and empathy are essential in meeting these needs. Identifying and expressing emotions in a healthy manner, helps prevent emotional build-up and conflict.
Emotional intelligence and empathy:
Building emotional intimacy and trust:
Emotional intimacy (heart to heart connection) is built through vulnerability, openness, and trust. Sharing emotions, desires, and addressing fears, deepens this connection. Trust is established through consistent follow-through on commitments and maintaining confidentiality. Emotional intimacy allows partners to feel secure and supported. Being vulnerable in the relationship involves sharing your fears, desires, and dreams, that creates a deeper connection with one another.
PERCEPTIVE BASIS
SPIRITUAL BASIS
INTIMATE BASIS
LIVING TOGETHER
HOLISTIC CONNECTION
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The four pillars that make all of us up are: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. We are all meant to grow these pillars and apply them fully expressed. This makes for successful relationships. This is what we teach! See here for testimonials from clients.
Most of us don’t really know what they are, primarily because we were never taught about them. So, we try to learn from relationships, and need relationships to facilitate us individually and collectively to learn what they are about and apply them. The feedback, through the relationship experience, teaches each of us, and that is how we generally learned up to this point. Many good articles and books have been written, and workshops have been offered covering the four pillars. The problem is that we see each one of them as singular aspects, and not in a holistic and balanced way. We collectively need to learn and grow these four pillars into a single functioning holistic unit that will result in functional relationships everywhere.
Not having any partners fosters very little growth, and moving from one to another at every bump does not foster growth either. Working with your partner, using these pillars, resolves things. Some people grow faster than others and some simply choose not to grow at all. Each at their own pace! The bottom line is that we all need relationships to grow and learn from! Sometimes partners can stay for one lifespan, and that’s great, but at other times one partner outgrows the other and both parties can feel this. It does not mean that either party is bad, it just means that the relationship has reached its sell by date. Each party has learned what they can from it. Thank the other partner for the growth and move on without animosity.
Below we give an outline of what is relevant to grow with, so as to create the best potential for a deep satisfying, supportive, and lasting relationship.
EMOTIONAL BASIS
Understanding emotional needs in relationships: Recognizing individual emotional needs, such as feeling heard, validated, respected, and supported, is crucial. Unmet emotional needs can lead to feelings of resentment and disconnection. Effective communication and empathy are essential in meeting these needs. Identifying and expressing emotions in a healthy manner, helps prevent emotional build-up and conflict.
Emotional intelligence and empathy:
- Emotional intelligence helps partners navigate conflicts and challenging emotions. Validating each other's emotions creates a safe and supportive environment. Offering emotional support during challenging times strengthens the bond. Self-awareness, self-regulation, and motivation are key components of Emotional Intelligence.
- Empathy allows partners to understand and share each other's feelings. Developing Emotional Intelligence and empathy also fosters a deeper emotional connections with one another.
Building emotional intimacy and trust:
Emotional intimacy (heart to heart connection) is built through vulnerability, openness, and trust. Sharing emotions, desires, and addressing fears, deepens this connection. Trust is established through consistent follow-through on commitments and maintaining confidentiality. Emotional intimacy allows partners to feel secure and supported. Being vulnerable in the relationship involves sharing your fears, desires, and dreams, that creates a deeper connection with one another.
PERCEPTIVE BASIS
- Effective communication and active listening: Active listening involves fully engaging with your partner, understanding their perspective, and asking clarifying questions when you are not clear. Effective communication is critical in preventing misunderstandings and resolving conflicts. Practicing empathy and understanding helps partners connect on a much deeper level. Non-verbal communication, such as body language and tone, also play a significant role.
- Understanding each other's perspectives and needs: Recognizing individual needs, desires, and boundaries are essential. Partners should strive to understand each other's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. This understanding fosters empathy, trust, and a deeper connection. Asking open-ended questions and seeking clarification helps to ensure understanding.
- Conflict resolution and negotiation: Conflicts inevitably arise in relationships, so learning healthy conflict resolution strategies, such as de-escalation techniques and compromise, is essential. Effective negotiation involves finding mutually beneficial solutions, whilst maintaining respect. Each person in the relationship is required to identify their own triggers and patterns, in order to prevent future conflicts.
SPIRITUAL BASIS
- Shared values and beliefs: Sharing common values and beliefs, create a strong foundation for a relationship. Discussing and exploring each other's spiritual beliefs can deepen understanding and connection. Respecting each other's differences, is crucial.
- Spiritual growth and development: Growing spiritually together involves exploring new practices, attending workshops, and discussing spiritual concepts. Supporting each other's spiritual journeys fosters a deeper connection and encourages individual and shared growth.
- Connecting on a deeper level: Sharing spiritual experiences and practices creates a sense of unity and connection. Sharing spiritual experiences and beliefs deepens the connection. Exploring spiritual concepts together fosters growth and understanding. Meditation, prayer, or other spiritual practices can bring partners closer.
INTIMATE BASIS
- Building physical and emotional intimacy: Physical intimacy involves vulnerability, trust, and communication. Emotional intimacy requires openness, empathy, and understanding. Both forms of intimacy are essential for a fulfilling relationship.
- Vulnerability and openness: Vulnerability involves sharing fears, desires, and dreams. Openness requires honesty, transparency, and trust. Both are crucial for building intimacy.
- Trust and vulnerability: Trust is built through consistent actions and follow-through. Vulnerability requires trust, creating a cycle of deepening connection.
- Physical attraction and chemistry: Physical attraction is essential for a romantic relationship. Chemistry involves a natural connection and spark.
- Physical touch and affection: Physical touch releases oxytocin, strengthening bonding. Affection shows love and care, and nurtures the relationship.
- Intimacy and sexual connection: A healthy sexual connection involves communication, trust, and vulnerability. Intimacy encompasses emotional, physical, and spiritual connection.
LIVING TOGETHER
- Ensure that you have developed the four pillars mentioned above to the fullest extent possible and to be able to apply it in your relationship.
- Be responsible and balanced in all ways! Don’t be overly responsible, nor under responsible. This is towards yourself first, then to your partner, and then to your children. Always look at your 50% contribution to the relationship, to conflict, to positivity and negativity, and growth. Clean up your act first and then you can look at your partner. Not before.
- A clean, tidy and safe home and environment is imperative to everyone’s benefit in the home.
- Understanding the financial situation between the two of you, you plan how to use that to the benefit of yourself, and to the relationship, in a mutually responsible and beneficial way.
- Live within your means. Work together and plan together what each of you want for the relationship.
- Have fun together, sing and dance, play together and don’t take everything too seriously.
- Each one of you should have your own and/or a collective, creative outlet. Creativity brings out the fun. We are creative beings so, be creative in as many ways as possible.
- Having children. These should be planned for and wanted by both parents before you have them. It is important to have grown yourself in the four pillars, to the fullest extent possible. Any short-comings will be transferred onto your children, and they will manifest this in your life, making raising them difficult and this will test your relationship. It is important to pass on age related responsibility to children, so that by the time they reach 21 years of age, they are totally independent of you. At the same time, you will have passed on adequate knowledge of the emotional, mental and spiritual pillars. They will then have the capacity and capability to be responsible and functional people. When this has been done, then you have done your job as a parent.
HOLISTIC CONNECTION
- Fully developed and integrated emotional, spiritual, intimate, and physical aspects, fosters a holistic understanding of the relationship and each one's required responsibilities.
- Building a strong and healthy relationships by cultivating emotional intelligence, effective communication, and spiritual connection, can lead to a fulfilling and lasting one.
- Continuous growth and development, embracing challenges, learning from experiences, and adapting to changes can help partners grow together and strengthen their relationship.
To make a booking, please see contact details in the footer.
