Food and love are intimately bound up, so at times of emotional loss or confusion the stomach appears as a big hole that needs filling.

The food squashes down our real feelings – the more we eat, the less we feel.  At the same time we build a wall around ourselves that few can penetrate.

Many cases of over-eating develop following deep emotional pain or loss and the excess weight    is like a protection against further hurt.  It also blocks out our own feelings; we become numb to what is really being felt inside.  Grief or shame is often hidden beneath an obsessive appetite.  Many women put on excess weight around their hips and thighs following sexual assault – by covering the sexual area the feelings are shut away.  Obesity is about a longing for love combined with a fear of loving or being loved, perhaps due to past hurt, loss or pain.

Excess flesh indicates a holding on, an attachment or clinging, particularly to attitudes and thinking patterns that justify our behaviour.  It provides a false sense of security – a belief that we are safe from feeling or being hurt.  It also implies a loss of control, and an inner hopelessness or lack of self-respect.  To shift the weight we need to explore our attitudes – what being heavy means to us, and what feelings the weight is hiding.

Rather than focusing on what is wrong with being heavy, start exploring the benefits.  Try writing down all the ways that being heavy is OK for you. 

Then explore how it would feel to be thin. 

The bigger we get, the more likely we are to reject ourselves and feel ugly or unlovable.  Losing weight occurs through a deep shift in attitude, starting with an acceptance of ourselves just as we are – we need to give ourselves the love we long for.  Then we can start working on the layers of fear that lie beneath the excess weight.

Positive thinking on it’s own will not solve all of your problems, however it is one of a series of things that we all have the power to implement which will get us on the path to leading the life we want.

About the Author:

Peter has particular effective techniques in identifying what is going on within oneself, why is your life like this, what is going on, what is your thinking pattern and belief systems. Once identified, we then decide what it is that you want to do about your life situation. This is where you take control, take personal responsibility and choose to change what ever it is you want to, you then replace them with something substantially better. Peter has seen many clients’ lives change completely within weeks of a consultation. You can also do it.

Peter’s sessions are powerful, quick to resolution and bring about long term healing. Peter does not believe in long term therapy and in most cases between 5 to 10 hours of process work can sort out most problems be they business, personal or illness.

Peter is a Business Consultant, Life Coach, Healer, Teacher as well as a Business & Personal Coach. He is an expert in the areas of Leadership, Self Empowerment, Healing and Personal Development and in integrating these several, seemingly different, disciplines, Peter is successful at this as the result of personal experience - a solid business background combined with a passion, and gift, for personal development and helping others.

To find out how Peter can help you to move your life forward, check out his web site at http://www.iempowerself.com/index.html, and contact him directly by e-mail on peter@iempowerself.com .

Please read these articles hyper linked below. They contain gems that will assist you to gain some insight into yourself and why this happened to you and how you got there. The real crucial thing is for you to understand, in some way – unconsciously – you put it there. All you need to do is discover how you did it then you can undo it. You can overcome it, many have already around the world. Because we are all constructed in the same way, we all have access to the same healing possibilities, if they can heal so can you. The final issue is that it is your choice!!.

Here are the articles on the web site, enjoy and ponder – these are pointers for you.  God bless you.

My Unconscious Belief Systems.

The Universal Laws and how they affect you. Once you understand them you can get them to work for you. Look also at the Universal Law of Belief Systems – it will amaze you.

The wonderful world of Quantum Physics. See how this actually is the mechanics of the laws and the belief systems. Once you get this and use it to your advantage you will never look back. Never!!

Also look at the law of attraction and your belief systems. You will see how it is that you have attracted this to yourself to facilitate your growing. Learn it, the sooner you do the sooner you get better.

Now you may or may not fully understand all of the above. Contact us to teach you how to overcome it. If you can do it in your own – well done and God bless you. Please pass your insights and learning on. Thank you - Peter