The counselling session

Each counselling session is focused directly on what the client brings. The approach is multifaceted. The client is given an initial questionnaire that facilitates the establishment of what is really going on in the client's life. It is quickly established what the long term patterns are in the clients life. The issues around ones health and relationships are connected in such a way that the client can immediately grasp the essence of their problem and the interrelatedness of it all..

 This is then explained, drawing on what ever model is necessary so that the client is able to make the connections easily for themselves. The connection is made between the physical problems and the emotional environment of the client. Once this has been achieved the client is then ready to address the issues that are brought by the client and we move into the next phase.

Where there are no direct health problems, but there is an underlying emotional problem, then the client is taken through a journey to discover where the disconnection occurred between all the parts of self. We try and establish what happened resulting in the present condition. When this is completed then the client is ready to move into the next phase.

The next phase consists of explaining how we all energetically work (on a high level), and how we attract events into our lives that is constantly pushing us to resolve our personal blockages or belief systems. Once this is grasped by the client, we will be ready to move into the next phase.

The next phase displays, before the client, the very essence of the problem by accessing within where the problem is sitting. This is a very powerful technique and results in, generally for the first time, for the client to actually see what is going on in their life. The client then states what they wish to do with this scenario, and then resolution is reached. This generally ends up being a breakthrough for the client and leads to a much happier and freer life. We also then put an action plan in place as to what the client feels is the right thing for them i.e. how do they want their lives to work from this point onwards. This whole process is very empowering and has resulted in many a client's life changing completely. The client is then able to function in life much better, smarter, resolve issues quicker and be much happier and freer. This leads to life becoming fun -as it is supposed to be.

The healing session

If there is a health condition that is attached to the issue brought in by the client, energetic healing is then offered to the client. Depending on the nature of the problem and severity of the problem, it would directly impact on the period required to effect proper physical healing.

Because the emotional side of the problem has been addressed or partially addressed the energetic healing that can take place is normally rapid. In this way many health problems have been relieved.

An example of this would illustrate the point. A client had severe cholesterol problems. In this particular client, there were major emotional issues relating to the non expression of the innermost feelings, and how they were repressed within her for many years. She had severe relationship problems and was struggling with life. She came for counselling and healing. Both were very successful and the cholesterol dropped from just over 8 to slightly above 5 within ten days. This is an indication of what is possible by combining both modalities. See the page on Client Success Stories on further examples of the interrelatedness of illness and the emotional state.

Some issues that I have worked very well with are;

Number of counselling sessions

So far in the practice I have not have had to work with a client for more than eight sessions in a row where the issues are not extremely complex. Generally the issues have been dealt with and resolved within five to seven sessions. I have a policy that if I cant get movement within two sessions with the client then I will tell the client that I am not the right person for them to effect the healing that they require. This has luckily, not happened yet.

The first session is always two hours long and there after one hour per session but can go longer depending on circumstance.
I have a policy that I will not accept a booking from a parent, spouse, friend or a family member. I will gladly discuss the possibilities with them but the actual booking is to be made by the client themselves (unless of course it is a parent child issue).

A further policy is that each client that I see must accept the following;

Counselling Issues dealt with at the Centre

There are a wide variety of issues that I deal with. These can be personal, business related, relationships, and /or child related. Please look on this web page for the listing.

Relationship Counselling

Relationship counselling is one of my favourites. I have a whole program, over a weekend, that covers why is it that we are attracted to a particular kind of person, what are the dynamics, what we can do to change it and how to manage a better relationship.

Here are some thoughts on relationships, these and many others are covered in the relationship workshop.

Without commitment you cannot learn to care for another person more than yourself, nor learn to value the growth of strength and clarity in another soul, even if that threatens the wants of your personality. When you release the wants of your personality in order to accommodate and encourage another's growth, you attune yourself to that person's soul. Without commitment, you cannot learn to see others as your soul sees them - as beautiful and powerful spirits of Light.
You learn the roles of love and commitment and trust in making your partnership work. You learn that love alone is not enough, that without trust, you are not able to give and to receive the love that both of you have for each other. You learn that your commitment must be translated into a form that satisfies the needs of both you and your partner. You learn to value the needs of your partner as much as you value your own, because the partnership that you both want requires two healthy and inwardly secure individuals.

You learn that sharing your concerns with consideration and the intention to heal and trust in the process is the only appropriate avenue. As you approach your needs with courage instead of fear you ignite a sense of trust. The true human condition in its most perfect form has no secrets. It does not hide, but exists in clear love.

Individuals who experience what might be thought of as a martyr attitude see themselves as giving all that they have to others. They see this as a form of loving, but in truth the love that they give is contaminated because it is so filled with sorrow for themselves. A sense of guilt and powerlessness clouds the energy from their hearts and so when their affection is felt by another it does not feel good, actually. It feels somehow thick with need, yet the need is never articulated, so their love feels like cement pulling you.

Each interaction with each individual is part of a continual learning dynamic. When you interact with another, an illusion is part of this dynamic. This illusion allows each soul to perceive what it needs to understand in order to heal. It creates, like a living picture show, the situations that are necessary to bring into wholeness the aspects of each soul that require healing.

The illusion is a learning vehicle. It is of the personality. You will leave the illusion behind when you die, when you return home. Yet a personality that lives in love and Light, that sees through the eyes of its soul, metaphorically speaking, can see the illusion and simultaneously not be drawn into it. This is an authentically empowered personality.

The illusion is exquisitely intimate to the needs of each soul. Always each situation serves each person involved. You cannot, and will not, encounter a circumstance, or a single moment, that does not serve directly and immediately the need of your soul to heal, to come into whole­ness. The illusion for each soul is created by its intentions.

Trust allows you to laugh. You can just as easily laugh and play while you grow as become serious and over­whelmed. Spiritual partners see from the perspective of the impersonal, and they help each other see from that perspective the meaning of their experiences. They can laugh at the richness and the beauty and the playfulness of the Universe. They enjoy each other. They see the frustrations of the wants of the personality for what they are, learning’s, sometimes great learning’s, for the soul.

Humility:

An authentically empowered person is humble, A humble spirit walks a familiar world. People are not strangers to it; they are its companions upon the Earth. A humble spirit does not ask for more than it needs, and what it needs, the Universe provides. A humble spirit is content with the fulfillment of its authentic needs, and is not burdened with artificial needs. Humble spirits are free to love and to be who they are. They have no artificial standards to live up to. They are not drawn to the symbols of external power. They do not compete for external power. This does not mean that they do not take pride in what they can do well, or that they do not focus their efforts to produce the best that they can, or are not spurred onward by their fellow humans when that is appropriate to the situation.

Your Life Purpose?

Most of us have a sense that there is a better, more meaningful way to live our lives, but we can't seem to find it by ourselves.   We carry on doing what is required of us, but still this nagging sense that "there must be something more" returns.  This search for a greater sense of their life's purpose underlies client questions such as:

During the counselling sessions the issue of my life purpose often comes up in some way. It always leads to a deeper appreciation of life. I also like to discuss that the client starts to engender an Attitude of Gratitude in their life - it makes a world of difference - literarily.

Health Issues

It must be accepted that energetic healing can bring about relief. This however is not the full picture. We need to support our bodies by correct eating and a reasonable degree of exercise. We also need to take some support supplements such as anti oxidants. We strongly suggest natural herbal products and nothing of a synthetic nature (unless absolutely necessary).

Our emotional health is also very important and ranks on a par with our physical health. When you have found that something is not working or there are reactions to events that are not warranted then it means that something is not right. Please then go and check it out in the same way that you would go to the doctor for an illness. It is not that there is something WRONG with you, but rather that “I wish to be a better functioning human being, and wish to understand why it is that I react this way, and not in a much healthier way”.

Energetic’s of the body

For our long term growth and full understanding we all need to start to learn about the body’s energetic system and how to work with it. We need to understand how the energetic system works on a psychological basis as well as a physical basis. Once you have insight and understanding of it then you will start to conduct your life differently and actively work with it. This may result, within a very short period of time, that your life will start to change fundamentally for the better.

It is however not necessary to understand it before you can solve your emotional and or health problems. Having knowledge of it will contribute to your healing in a big way. However, it is important to know that if you don't heal the underlying emotional problem of your physical problem and you just seek energetic or medical healing, the disease will in all probability come back, either in the same form or in another, for this is how the energetic bodies work. Disease is not meant to put you down or make you suffer, but is meant to get you to understand the underlying emotional issues and get you to address them. When you do this then healing is rapid. Spontaneous healing is just this.

Like everything on the planet, the partners we choose, the work environment we choose, the friends we choose, the disease we choose is designed to get us to grow. To become the best fully developed person that we can, and live a wonderful happy and fruitful life. This is all possible if we choose to do something about it rather than be subject to it forcefully pushing us into growing.

Further Reading

I wish to ask those enquiring readers to read the Quantum Physics article on this web site as well as “Energetic’s of the subconscious mind” and combine what was covered above with that. When you grasp this you will realise how important it to seek your own healing rapidly – for you can change everything in your life very quickly and then life can become the joyous place it was meant to be.!!!
God Bless all those who read these words. May you grow blissfully and gracefully.