The Illness Conundrum

All illnesses have an emotional component to them. It is probably in the order of roughly 85%. The rest is due to environmental issues. One needs to be careful when making a statement like this and the use of common sense is applicable. Lets say if someone is exposed to dangerous chemicals and becomes infected then of course there is no emotional component, but the opposite is true where one is constantly exposed to an abusive or stressful environment all the time, then, depending on the manner we process this environment, will reflect in an illness in some way and it is true.

Illness from and emotional component (stress, abuse, anxiety, etc) accumulates in the emotional and mental energy fields of the body and gradually works its way into the physical body and becomes manifest there. Dealing with the emotional and mental issues diffuses the energy and mental bodies and so illness will not develop in the body, or put another way, when illness has developed then a way of healing the illness is first to diffuse the emotional and mental bodies and then the body is able to heal its self or with a little help be healed rather rapidly. 

Illness has many fascinating aspects to it. Read on!!!!

Illness is very distracting. It blots out all other issues. It centres our energy firmly on ourselves. On the one hand this can be very beneficial, for it gives us a chance to let go of those things that are really trivial and unnecessary. The surplus issues blow away like the chaff in the wind, and we are left with the essentials of ourselves and our mortality. No longer do we take everything for granted; life becomes very precious because it is fragile and impermanent.

If we can fully enter into this state then illness will open our hearts, connecting us with what is really important, with our true priorities. If we however focus on the “poor me” aspect of the illness we stifle our potential to get well, and so recovery may take much longer than if we opened our hearts to what is actually going on and resolved the issue/s. When we do get better, over time, but we have not addressed the true underlying issue then we find that we get sick again. Almost like a recurring illness, something like a recurring chest cold, or recurring sinus infection, or a recurring flu infection ….. and so the list can go on and on.

Perhaps another way to look at the situation of illness may be this, which comes first in becoming ill?,

The answer is obvious isn’t it? When we feel the latter for a while then it is that we get sick. That is the norm isn’t it?

Illness can give us permission to avoid a difficult situation, to off load responsibilities.    Does your condition distract you from dealing with other situations? What activities are the symptoms preventing you from undertaking? A migraine headache, for example, can take us out of having to read aloud in class, visit in-laws, having to make a decision or choice, a broken leg can postpone a wedding or a holiday, having flu means a whole week in bed (just to rest), having herpes means keeps intimacy at a distance, as so the list may go on and on. Some interesting questions:

Of course being ill can be of benefit to you as well, it can make you feel very special, different, even important, it can even give you a special status. The illness may result in you getting special attention, love care, nurturing from someone. Or is it an unconscious cry for help, love, a longing to be looked after and nourished. Is it perhaps an avoidance of looking after the self, avoiding being personally responsible, being independent? Or are you struggling on your own, trying to cope so as not to be a nuisance or dependent to someone or anyone? Or are you using the illness in a way to get some one to know what it is that you need without having to be told by you?

When we have an illness it gives us something to occupy our days with and we are in constant communication with it. This is revealed by the fact when you ask how they are then a long list of items tends to flow, such as, all the problems, visits to the doctor, medication, and a prognosis is bound to follow. There normally is a love of speaking about how it is when we are sick, there are two things that generally flow from this;

It is almost like something has to be wrong for us to feel important or even more lovable / likeable / accepted etc. If we did not have this illness how could we get the underlying need we needed satisfied.    Would our friends, relatives still notice us unless we had this illness? Do we fear the changes we may be faced with if we were to get better and how would it affect our relationships? Are we perhaps holding on to our loved ones through illness? Or are you stopping others from getting too close?

Relationships of real honesty are not easy to maintain. They are demanding and can make on feel unsafe or exposed. When this happens there may be an underlying feeling of competition, clash of wills, superiority, criticism, not good enough, etc. Was there a threat in the relationship when the illness arrived or slightly before, was it breaking up or was there a threat of losing it. Children and the elderly are prone to this and use it to get attention. Conflict in a relationship can be reflected in our children; such as just when we leave for the theatre they get sick. If there is a feeling of satisfaction when this happens then it is a warning sign that all is not well in the relationship. Maybe an illness gives you both a chance to get closer and be more loving to each other.

Illness can arise out of dislike of self or shame. Some of the questions that fill this category may be:

Life can be very stressful and can manifest in several ways in the body. Some of the questions we need to ask ourselves may be;

When we get ill we surrender control of the future – it has to look after itself for a while. There is a pause, a time to breathe and reconnect, a time to remember who we are. Illness allows us to do things we would otherwise have denied ourselves, such as doing something creative such as perhaps painting, writing, gardening, making something etc. It provides space to reflect, to care for ourselves, to learn, to reassess, in a way that may not have been possible previously. It gives us the chance to get to know ourselves. This is the blessing of illness. The process of dealing with illness follows below.

The healing process.

For the healing process to take place, the number one attitude that is absolutely essential to understand is that, I have caused this in some way. It is as a result of some emotional issue that has not been addressed. In many instances it is understandable that the person has no idea how that was or what lead to it, which is fine, but there must be a willingness to say that I am willing to take full responsibility in finding my part in it, resolve it and  heal it. Full healing can then take place and normality flows quiet naturally. If we are able to get to this point by ourselves we can heal ourselves easily. This is commonly called taking full responsibility for our own illness. Those who develop a fighting spirit, mental resilience and vigour, who do not reject themselves, appear to have a greater healing potential.

The second major component is that, one must accept the principle that our emotions have the same priority in our acceptance of ourselves, as does say a leg for instance. For if we had to break a leg and have it treated we would have to go to extra ordinary lengths to accommodate it (such as, we have to go to hospital to have it set, then we have to wait for it to get better before anything else happens, next comes the question, how do we get around, how do we bath, how do we function etc). The same most go for our feelings; our feelings are the ones that drive us to do many things that we may not otherwise do. When we do these things, is it because we are trying to protect ourselves or we are just trying to survive, or what is it that we are doing? Therefore it is essential to give our feelings the same consideration and space as any other part of ourselves.

Of course it is essential to strengthen the functioning of the immune system – which also means strengthening the will or the desire to get better. It also means finding what is meaningful, looking deeper to discover the real purpose of life, what it is that would make us happier, what needs to happen to make the world a better place?

The healing process therefore means going back and finding what happened that killed of one’s sense of enjoying life, of being here, of fulfilling ones purpose in life – which is to grow and experiment and develop ourselves fully in doing what it is that we really enjoy doing. Once we have achieved that for ourselves, then we can share that with a partner and the world in a joyous and self feeding way.

There is a journey in healing of a serious illness. This is the same for any disease. The journey always has ups and downs along the way. These dips in the journey are to facilitate a learning process to take place within ones’ self, to gain deeper insights, to discover what it is that we have missed, and how we have put ourselves down, and how we have isolated ourselves, and most importantly what it is that we have cost ourselves in terms of life, joy, fun, being here, laughter, independence, inter dependence, growth, self discovery etc etc. If we make our journey conscious within ourselves, the journey is always rewarding and enlightening. A new perspective on life is then always the final outcome.

In my experience the discovery of the cost for the illness sufferer has always been huge and never worth it. Once their purpose in life is discovered, our role in the dynamics discovered and a way out is found, then suddenly, it dawns on the sufferer how to heal themselves. Once this is discovered the illness sufferer normally just wants to move on and sort out matters. This is when magic can happen both emotionally and physically. 

Please note that all of the above, does not fit 100% to each and every illness sufferer, but there are large parts of the above that fits most illness sufferers. It is also to note that the above is certainly not a complete list of potential problems. Each of us is unique. It is up to you to find those and work with it. In that you will find your own healing.

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About the Author:

Peter has particular effective techniques in identifying what is going on within oneself, why is your life like this, what is going on, what is your thinking pattern and belief systems. Once identified, we then decide what it is that you want to do about your life situation. This is where you take control, take personal responsibility and choose to change what ever it is you want to, you then replace them with something substantially better. Peter has seen many clients’ lives change completely within weeks of a consultation. You can also do it.

Peter’s sessions are powerful, quick to resolution and bring about long term healing. Peter does not believe in long term therapy and in most cases between 5 to 10 hours of process work can sort out most problems be they business, personal or illness.

Peter is a Business Consultant, Life Coach, Healer, Teacher as well as a Business & Personal Coach. He is an expert in the areas of Leadership, Self Empowerment, Healing and Personal Development and in integrating these several, seemingly different, disciplines, Peter is successful at this as the result of personal experience - a solid business background combined with a passion, and gift, for personal development and helping others.

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Please read these articles hyper linked below. They contain gems that will assist you to gain some insight into yourself and why this happened to you and how you got there. The real crucial thing is for you to understand, in some way – unconsciously – you put it there. All you need to do is discover how you did it then you can undo it. You can overcome it, many have already around the world. Because we are all constructed in the same way, we all have access to the same healing possibilities, if they can heal so can you. The final issue is that it is your choice!!.

Here are the articles on the web site, enjoy and ponder – these are pointers for you.  God bless you.

My Unconscious Belief Systems.

The Universal Laws and how they affect you. Once you understand them you can get them to work for you. Look also at the Universal Law of Belief Systems – it will amaze you.

The wonderful world of Quantum Physics. See how this actually is the mechanics of the laws and the belief systems. Once you get this and use it to your advantage you will never look back. Never!!

Also look at the law of attraction and your belief systems. You will see how it is that you have attracted this to yourself to facilitate your growing. Learn it, the sooner you do the sooner you get better.

Now you may or may not fully understand all of the above. Contact us to teach you how to overcome it. If you can do it in your own – well done and God bless you. Please pass your insights and learning on. Thank you - Peter