Developing higher levels of "Emotional Intelligence" (mastery in the collection of social, interpersonal, self-awareness. Leadership, relationship and self-management skills) has been proven to be the single most powerful thing you can do to advance your career, professional and personal relationships, and overall happiness. Once one understands how this mechanism works within each of us and overcoming the “blockages” within the self, then you are able to use it externally very effectively.

If you are struggling in some of your key relationships, or simply want to master your interpersonal or leadership skills, learn more about what is possible through professional coaching.

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Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the general catch phrase for a field of study that is relevant to all of us, because it relates to the most important skills we use every day.  And whether you know it or not, these skills - that determine how well you know yourself, how well you deal with all that happens to you, and how well you deal with others - are vitally important to your success. In essence the better you know yourself and your internal workings the better you will operate in your professional life.

 Plain and simple, all available evidence clearly shows that you cannot achieve extraordinary levels of success, without a high level of competency in the core EI realms.  In fact, the professional landscape is littered by bright, would-be leaders with great technical skills that failed due to their lack of self-knowledge, self-control, boundary setting, anger management, confidence, or an inability to understand others and build trusting, empowering, mutually beneficial and productive relationships with their constituents.   
As an experienced coach, business coach, counsellor, teacher and trainer, and as someone who has personally spent over 30 years in business and leadership positions, I am convinced that building your awareness and mastery of the EI realms, will be some of the most valuable personal and professional development you may ever do! In fact it would be life changing!! In every aspect of your life.   

So, please enjoy browsing the information I have put together here.  And should you want to learn more about EI, or arrange for a complementary coaching session, don't hesitate to contact me directly.  

What is Emotional Intelligence (EI)?

Emotional Intelligence (IE) is the recent buzzword designed by some to make it exotic sounding. In plain and simple English it is a skill that we are all supposed to develop while we are on the planet. The essence of it all is that we have to first understand how does emotional intelligence work inside of you. Once you have got that concept – and it is not an exceptionally difficult thing – you can learn how to apply the concept first on yourself then on others.

Some technocrats like to spell it as a term that refers to all the non-IQ areas of human intelligence.    "[The] social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one's own and others' feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use this information to guide one's thinking and action". In a business setting these personal, social, managerial and leadership skills form the core of what separates star performers from the rest of the pack. Often called people skills, street smarts, common sense, savvy, etc. this wide array of skills are emerging as the most important competencies in business. This EI should be taught at school, but instead everyone is sent out into the big wide world not understanding the very basics, and now have to somehow muddle on through. Of course many of us will fail along the way. Once you know the skill life becomes a whole lot simpler.

Why is EI so important?

Because years of solid academic research, now support the very intuitive truth that mastery of these personal and interpersonal skills are the single biggest factor contributing to an individual's success.  Many of the most successful business men in the world all speak of the same thing in one form or another. If they can master it so can you.  Yes technical skill is important but it wont carry you – ask thousands who tried before you.

How do you measure EI and what does it tell you?

There are many tests available that would test you for various skills that you may or may not have developed within yourself. I use a simple but powerful assessment questionnaire that reflects on the seven major areas of your life. It must be born in mind that this questionnaire is not the be all and end all – it is merely a guideline for you to work on these seven areas of your life. These seven areas form the basis of everyone on the planet, therefore if you can master each category then you would have developed a high degree of emotional intelligence. There are subscales that are also measured including your own levels of; self-regard, assertiveness, self-awareness, independence, self-actualization, empathy, interpersonal relationships, reality testing, flexibility, problem solving, stress tolerance, impulse and several general mood indicators.  This information can then be used to target coaching and development to raise their effectiveness in the areas that will contribute the most to their success.

Give me a specific example how this might work.

Doing research, I found one report that indicated that research on more than 40,000 people have shown that the most successful senior managers score very high on self-regard, happiness, interpersonal relationships, reality testing and self-actualization.  Thus if you are a manager who wants to excel, and the EI assessment report indicates that your self-regard and reality testing scores are normal or sub-normal, a coaching program can be customized to help you significantly increase your competency in this area.  (For a coach, key EI areas include empathy, independence, assertiveness, self-regard and interpersonal relationships.) Counselling can also help a great deal but that is up to the client at that point.
Once you have improved your EI you will be able to understand how you and people work and therefore are able to help and work with colleagues so much easier and that they will work with you so much easier. So all round there are many ways you can benefit.

How can I get my EI skill assessed?

The EI assessment tool can be completed in less than 50 minutes, the answer sheet is then returned to the coach who processes the results.  The results are then returned  to the client. Coach and client then arrange a 30-40 minute phoned-based coaching session to debrief the report, and outline a strategy to further develop the most relevant EI skills for coaching or counselling.

How much does it cost?

To properly understand, prioritise and build the key emotional intelligence competencies most important in your career or personal life, you should plan on 3 months of coaching. (While you can understand the concepts quickly it does take time and frequent support to change your behaviour and master the new skills.)  Please see the fees and policies elsewhere on this web site.

How can I learn more? 

There is a wealth of information available on Emotional Intelligence, in books, on the internet, attending workshops etc. See that you have got here via the internet, then try here for general information on emotional intelligence visit the Consortium for Research on Emotional Intelligence at: Emotional Intelligence  This tends to be very academic in some areas but it is a great source of information.

To view a copy of a paper on Emotional Intelligence and Why it Matters, by Dr. Cary Cherniss of Rutgers University, click on the following link: Emotional Intelligence 

Elsewhere on this web site. there are articles that you would find very interesting that would support your research. These are “Successful proven Steps for your Personal or Business Life”, “The Energetic’s of the Subconscious Mind”, “Your Body’s Energy System and the Law of Attraction”, “The Universal Laws”. 

Emotional Intelligence Coaching Free Consultation

You can contact Peter, learn more about EI, have a free coaching consultation, and get all your questions answered (without obligation) at:27 11 478 2633 or on cell 27 82 855 4793 or send an e-mail to:  peter@iempowerself.com

Depending on how you feel we can then set up a schedule or you can walk away, no questions asked.