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Empowerment, What is it?, How do I get it?


Self-empowerment in its simplest form means taking charge of your own life, in your work place, with your colleagues, with your subordinates, with your superiors, with your body, with your illness and for you caring for yourself. Well this sounds obvious but how come most of us don’t do it. The reason for this is that we don’t have the full understanding of how to do it properly or even what it means. We seem to rely on some sort of gut instinct or thought pattern within us, that we think this is the way it should be done. When we find out through some experience that, that is not so. we become confused, feel angry, feel hurt, indignant, feel rejected, feel not good enough, etc, etc. The list is endless. So what is the answer?
what isempowerment2Well lets look at it this way – if you had the knowledge and understanding of what and how to do, then you would know how to do things so that they don’t blow up in your face. But in order to do this, one needs knowledge of some sort. Another way of putting it is to say that self-empowered individuals do not give away their power or allow others to infantilize them, they use it appropriately. But to do this, one has to own and know your own power and be able to access it and use it appropriately. But how do you that?

The first thing to know is that we all have it, each and every one of us. The only difference between those who own and know their power and use it appropriately and those that don’t, is the internal belief system that they have, that they cant have that power.

Ok, if I accept that, then how do I look at my belief systems, or even for that matter find them and overcome them. This is relatively easy and there are many articles on this web site that will help you and give pointers. Please see the articles suggested at the bottom of this article.

Well the first thing to do is, when a situation arises that you have a reaction to – be it anything – then it is to see where is that feeling in my body, what does it feel like. Try to imagine what it feels like. Once you have that feeling of what it feels like then have a good look at it and trace it back in your life to the first time that you felt like that.

Then have a look at what was going on at the time. What were the circumstances, what was happening to you, what you took on about yourself that did not encourage you to have power, be in your power, to be authentic, that I gave away my power. Your reaction in the present moment is that moment from the past that you are reliving now when the circumstance came up.

In this past moment lies the gem/s for you to ponder on, and overcome. Herein lies the answers that you have been looking for. If you can’t do it for yourself then get someone who is specialised to help you to get the answers and understanding for you. Once you have overcome that hurdle, you will have started to build knowledge about yourself and how you operate. When the next similar event comes up then you will be empowered to overcome that similar kind of situation, and will not react negatively. You will be able to handle that particular situation easily.

If you do this exercise over and over again every time you have a reaction to anything, you will build up huge knowledge about yourself. Through this methodology you will eventually overcome all of your reactions. what isempowerment4 As you do this more and more you will overcome your fears that were holding you back, making you feel dis-empowered. When you have reached that stage you would have become rather powerful or empowered in your own right.

Lets look at an example to try and illustrate our point. In our country (South Africa) with the problem of HIV / AIDS. Now people with HIV/AIDS have a typical victim consciousness about them, they feel totally dis-empowered. Ok so how did this come about? Looking at the typical person who has HIV / AIDS, they are generally the ones who have been the victims of society. The have been subjected to negative authority experiences, negative societal experiences, negative cultural experiences, negative cultural experiences, negative home and family life experiences, negative environmental experiences, one being living in townships being imposed on them telling them what and what not to do. This is what I call victim consciousness in this article. They have not been encouraged to think for themselves, in fact just the opposite, they were told not to think. Just do as they were told.

They are subjected to the medical system that is also completely dis-empowering. They are subject to an economic system where they are generally the down trodden one, the abused one, where they have to irk out a measly living etc. etc.  From their point of view they see life as hard, that they don’t deserve, that they are not good enough, that they are never encouraged to be better, they must just accept the life situation as it is. This then has become a life long pattern for them and they think that this is the way life is and never actually challenge it. They think that this is their lot – this is how the dice fell and there is nothing they can do about it. They feel a victim. This is nothing else than a learned behaviour – a kind of conditioning. Now look at the symbolism of this and how it is reflected in their disease. Their immune system becomes compromised and they become powerless to defend themselves against disease entering into their body. In my practice I have not yet come across anyone who has the disease that does not have a pattern of victim consciousness in them somewhere.

In order for those who have HIV / AIDS, they need to learn to view themselves as the experts about what they need and what is involved in taking care of themselves. They need to learn to become empowered. Once this attitude develops, the people with AIDS (PWA) will need to be quite vocal about what his or her needs are. Unfortunately, this often has the effect of making other people uncomfortable around the person living with HIV/AIDS.

Be the Expert About Your Own Life
The concept of being the expert about your own life is one that many people have some difficulty in seeing and understanding. Let me explain. We all have been raised to believe that a physician knows what's best for our health; a priest, minister or rabbi what's best for us spiritually; a therapist what's best for us emotionally or mentally. Thus, traditionally an expert has been someone else whom we were taught to defer to and trust unconditionally. Questioning the opinions of these experts was not encouraged. The blind acceptance of authority has been a fundamental component of the existing power structures in this society (and in most others as well). This has now become a learned behaviour which in turn has become our own belief system. This belief system is what runs our lives for ever more until we decide to challenge it and then change it within ourselves. Now when these belief systems become ignited in us, in a life situation, where the person is required to act in his power they feel that they can’t (feel powerless) and that they have no right to. Thus they react in a powerless type manner / in a victim type manner and so become submissive, powerless, non challenging, accepting etc etc and so the cycle goes on.

what isempowerment6Empowerment means to gain knowledge and understanding. Self empowerment means to gain knowledge and understanding of the self. Think of it like this. If you knew absolutely nothing about a car and its inner workings, and the car broke down somewhere far from home. You would have no idea what to do to fix the car, so that you can go on. Yet if you had a good knowledge and understanding of the car and its inner workings then you could figure out what needs to be done, get the tools and spares to do it, and fix it. In this situation you would be empowered (feel empowered) for you would know what to do to get yourself going again. You would not just sit in the car and wait for someone to come and sort out the problem for you.

So self-empowerment means to gain knowledge over the Self. In a similar way that you would have gained knowledge and understanding on the inner workings of the car.

So what does this mean? It is essential to gain knowledge of how we all work. What happens on the inside, what are the mechanisms that play and how do they affect our lives. This is a study on its own. Some of the articles listed below and on this web site will give you a broad understanding. Then the next stage would be to find out and understand where did our personal belief systems come from. Once we understand that then we can have a look at the interaction of the two, and see how they run our lives, and how we attract certain events into our lives that reinforce our personal belief systems. This is in line with one of the universal laws that states, that which is on the inside will be reflected on the outside. So to put it in terms of the HIV / AIDS example above – if you are feeling a victim on the inside, then on the outside, will reflect your real life situation.

Another Example Let me give you another example of a child in an upmarket home, who has everything done for them, everything is given to them and they never lack for anything. They are used to just giving orders and getting what they want. This kind of child then grows up and goes out into the working world carrying this experience with them. This is their belief system about the world and the way it operates. They expect to be able to carry on the same kind of life style they were used to when they were growing up. They suddenly find that they are in constant conflict with their co workers, their subordinates and superiors. They can’t understand why and what is going on that life does not work like that. From the outside looking in we can easily see what is going on but from the inside of the person they have no idea – they think that this is the way that life should be and that is how they think they should operate. They can’t see why people are in conflict with them. They simply have no idea.

And so we can go on and on with examples of life.

Empowerment Characteristics
So lets define and discuss empowerment and in particular self empowerment. Lets start with empowerment. Empowerment is probably the totality of the following or similar capabilities:

  • Having decision making power of your own.
  • Having access to information and resources to enable you to take proper informed decisions for yourself.
  • Having a range of options that you have determined for yourself so that you can make choices (not just yes / no , either / or)
  • Ability to exercise assertiveness in collective decision making.
  • Having the belief in self to the extent that you feel that you can make positive change or have the ability to make change for yourself.
  • Ability to learn new skills or improving one’s personal power or group power.
  • Ability to change other’s perceptions by democratic means.
  • Involving in the growth process and changes that is never ending and self initiated.
  • Increasing one’s positive self image and overcoming stigma.
  • Finally all of the above be summed up together to say “I am personally responsible for my life and where I find myself” if I don’t like it, I have the power to change it and I have the right to do just that. Through the proper use of choice I can change my life.

Self empowerment means then to have the personal knowledge and belief in self to be able to perform any or all of the above. A self empowered person reflects within themselves a feeling of self confidence that is demonstrated by the following qualities;

  • Self Knowledge – the ability to know thyself in all its facets and thereby know how others operate and then how to interact with them.
  • Self appreciation – it is important to know what you are good at, to develop a sense of self dignity. Know what it is that you can offer the world – and to know that the world wants you to deliver that, for we need it from you and we cant wait for you to do it.
  • Vision – points us in the direction that we must move to, it provides the path, but in knowing where we are going we can proceed step by step despite fear.
  • Power of purpose – If we have power of purpose it inspires confidence in us and gives us a sense of purpose. Although purpose is not a panacea, it makes living worthwhile. Life matters when you have a purpose.
  • Commitment – this is the “heart felt promise to self” to see things through and will not let you down.
  • Contribution – for those that live by the principle of contribution, reward follows service; getting follows giving. You reap what you sow, sow positive things and you reap positive things, sow negative and you reap negative. Life is best when what isempowerment8we are happily and willingly contributing to others.

We at the Self Empowerment and Development Centre have programs where we teach you to discover first of all how you work on the inside, then we also offer processes for you to find out what your belief systems are that are subconsciously operating in your life. (To gain a better understanding of this please do a search on this site for the belief systems and the subconscious mind). You will find it most illuminating. Our aim is to teach you about yourself and then to empower and develop you so that you can manage a much better life for yourself and thereby facilitate change for mankind.

Once you do that you find that relationships become better, work becomes better, your income becomes better, your health becomes better, in fact it becomes better all round. That is the benefit and goal of becoming self empowered.

About the Author:

Peter has particular effective techniques in identifying what is going on within oneself, why is your life like this, what is going on, what is your thinking pattern and belief systems. Once identified, we then decide what it is that you want to do about your life situation. This is where you take control, take personal responsibility and choose to change what ever it is you want to, you then replace them with something substantially better. Peter has seen many clients’ lives change completely within weeks of a consultation. You can also do it.

Peter’s sessions are powerful, quick to resolution and bring about long term healing. Peter does not believe in long term therapy and in most cases between 10 to 15 hours of process work can sort out most problems be they business, personal or illness.

Peter is a Business Consultant, Life Coach, Healer, Teacher as well as a Business & Personal Coach. He is an expert in the areas of Leadership, Self Empowerment, Healing and Personal Development and in integrating these several, seemingly different, disciplines, Peter is successful at this as the result of personal experience - a solid business background combined with a passion, and gift, for personal development and helping others.

To find out how Peter can help you to move your business and /or your life forward, check out his web site at http://http://www.iempowerself.com/index.html, and contact him directly.

Please read these articles hyper linked below. They contain gems that will assist you to gain some insight into yourself and why this happened to you and how you got there. The real crucial thing is for you to understand, in some way – unconsciously – you put it there. All you need to do is discover how you did it then you can undo it. You can overcome it, many have already around the world. Because we are all constructed in the same way, we all have access to the same healing possibilities, if they can heal so can you. The final issue is that it is your choice!!.

Here are the articles on the web site, enjoy and ponder – these are pointers for you.  God bless you.

My Unconscious Belief Systems.

The Universal Laws and how they affect you. Once you understand them you can get them to work for you. Look also at the Universal Law of Belief Systems – it will amaze you.

The wonderful world of Quantum Physics. See how this actually is the mechanics of the laws and the belief systems. Once you get this and use it to your advantage you will never look back. Never!!

Also look at the law of attraction and your belief systems. You will see how it is that you have attracted this to yourself to facilitate your growing. Learn it, the sooner you do the sooner you get better.

Now you may or may not fully understand all of the above. Contact us to teach you how to overcome it. If you can do it in your own – well done and God bless you. Please pass your insights and learning on.

Thank you – Peter

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